Reasons Not To Fall In Love

Falling in love can be a magical, surreal experience, however there are some pitfalls about falling in love that no one will probably ever warn you about.

The downfalls of falling in love:

• The Economic Crisis:
  Being in love is expensive. You may find yourself wanting to buy your beloved all sorts of things just to make them smile. Can you really afford to dote on someone when there are so many new high-tech gadgets you could buy for yourself? Why should someone else receive heart-felt gifts with all your hard-earned money just because they are an amazing person? After all, eating dinner alone is a much more cost effective way of living rather taking your significant other to a romantic restaurant. You do the maths.

• Time Management:
  You probably already lead quite a busy life, right? You have places to go and things to do every day, maybe even deadlines to meet. Imagine if someone came into your life and suddenly you found yourself wanting to spend more and more time with them. You might suddenly find yourself rearranging your time to be with them, neglecting a few responsibilities to spend a bit longer with them. Remember that broken tile in the bathroom you were going to fix a few months ago? Of course you don’t. Love can be very time-consuming. Are you sure you can fit this amazing human being into your schedule? It may mean you have to cut down on some of your time spent trolling the internet. Is it really worth it?
  
  
• The Invisibility Phenomenon:
  It’s all well and good that you’ve gone and fallen in love. But what good is that to all your single friends? You used to be so good at consoling them through their heartbreaks. Now your advice is completely useless, that is, if they even ask you at all anymore. They are right to assume that, as you are now loved by someone, you no longer have any recollection of what it is like to be single and the concept of loneliness no longer exists for you. Finding a companion was a selfish, unforgivable thing to do. Whose failed love-life can they now compare their own to when they want to feel better?

• The Unknown:
  Falling in love with someone may mean you start to try new things that you have never done before. You may notice that your beloved insists on sharing their interests with you. Let’s say their interest, for example, is gardening; a hobby that you had previously never really thought much about. Do you really want to learn so much about a topic just because your beloved’s face lights up when they talk about it? If their passion really was that great wouldn’t you have already been interested in it before they came along? Don’t let them broaden your horizons and change you for the better.
  
  
• Emotional Rollercoaster:
  One would hope that falling in love would be a peaceful, calm journey. Alas by falling in love you choose to forfeit your own ability to control your emotions. This one mere person now has the power to set your heart pounding into a frenzy with a soft, slow kiss; make you laugh uncontrollably to the point where you almost lose bladder control; make a simple, beautiful gesture which brings you to the point of almost shedding a tear out of sheer joy. You don’t need that kind of instability. That kind of erratic behaviour can’t be good for you.

Love: Don’t fall for it.

If you ever find that you have fallen in love with someone, please follow this advice: Inform an adult of your situation and plan a safe exit.
It’s for your own good.
Friends don’t let friends form meaningful relationships.

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The Sad Diaries Of A Single Girl

I crossed the line between being single and being desperate somewhere in my twenties.

I guess it can be traced back to the point when I began using my free time to Google ‘quotes about loneliness’.

See here some an excerpt from my life when I was a single lesbian living alone, (dignity not included):

So I asked a woman out on a date not being sure whether it is a date or not. (And also not being sure if she is straight or not.) I avoided using the term ‘hanging out’ when I asked (via text I might add, because I don’t have the balls) thinking that it would somehow make my intentions clearer. Clearly not.

I’m yet to even figure out what I would define as a date. I guess it is whether I like the person enough and if we are alone together and have planned it thusly. So far so good.

Don’t even ask me how I managed to ask this person to spend any amount of time with me voluntarily. I’m still not sure whether I have misjudged our fleeting eye contact and several passing greetings as something more than exactly that. I do have a tendency to mistake good customer service as a come-on. But she agreed to meet me; that’s the important thing.

My grasp of flirting consists mainly of smiling in a goofy fashion at all times in her presence. The description ‘not all there’ comes to mind when I lose sleep reliving these moments, thinking of things much wittier than what I said. God help any women out there who have shown any slight or accidental affection towards me.

In true nerdy form I have been getting my expectations up for something that has probably barely crossed her mind. Yes, I have tried on the clothes I will be wearing when I see her even though that won’t be for three days. I have even, in a painful display of optimism, changed my bed sheets. Not that I have any idea how to get a woman within three-hundred metres of my boudoir. And even if I got her there, I’m not confident I would know what to do. In fact, my actual reasoning that I have prepared my bed is just in case she has too much to drink and needs somewhere to sleep while I curl up in the corner under a throw rug. It’s my version of modern romance.

That right, ladies, get ready for a wild ride, because when it comes to lovers, I like to start with a first course of bumbling, awkward interactions followed by a progressive friendship of about two to three years. That’s how I roll, bitches.